Natures Legal Personality

Legal personality.

Can we successfully endow nature with a legal personality, or is this another framework to create another absurd fiction. There is a well established legal and regulatory framework for protecting natural resources, benefiting the appointed guardians and armies of wealthy lawyers. The strength of this framework is, that it creates a balance between the interests of both people and the environment. While measures are already in place to protect the environment, nature needs all the protection it can get. Our consumer orientated structure of economic growth at all costs, is hardly helping. The current outlook for policies to look after nature doesn’t look very promising. Can another “out there” proposal of Legal Personality help nature more?

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A rivers legal personality

(A legal definition of legal personality first) The legal personality means to be capable of having legal rights and duties within a certain legal system. Such as to enter into contracts, sue, and be sued. Legal personality is a pre-requisite to legal capacity. It’s the ability of any legal person to amend rights and obligations. Legal persons are of two kinds: natural persons – people – and judicial persons – groups of people, such as corporations, which are treated by law as if they were persons. While people acquire legal personhood when they are born. Judicial persons do so when they are incorporated in accordance with law. ( Definition and translation)

A tree or a river with a legal personality.

A river has been granted the same legal rights as a person in New Zealand. Parliament has now recognized the Whanganui River on the North Island, as a living entity. Long revered by New Zealand’s Maori people, the river’s interests will now be represented by two people, one member from the Maori tribes, known as iwi, and one from the Crown, this recognition allows it to be represented in court if need arises. This was in March this year and only two weeks later, the Indian state of Uttarakhand gave the Ganges river and it’s main tributary, the Yamuna river, the status of living human entities, with legal personalities. Henceforth, polluting or damaging these rivers, will be the legal equivalent to harming a person.

One week after declaring the rivers Ganges and Yamuna as legal persons. The rivers, streams, rivulets, lakes, meadows and jungles in other areas were also named as legal persons. The friends of the earth Australia, are saying that granting legal personality to the great barrier reef will have little effect on the way the reef is run. The great barrier reef authority, will still oversee everyday activities on the reef. While tourists will continue to enjoy the beauty of the reef. The main difference would be, that the trustees would have the power to enforce the reef’s rights, if these were not respected by government. The courts findings in the Indian case, noted, that past generations handed the earth to us in it’s pristine glory and we are morally bound to hand over the same earth, to future generations.

Natural resources with legal personality.

I know the initial inclination of some people is to say it’s pretty strange to give a natural resource a legal personality. But it’s no stranger than family trusts, companies or incorporated societies. (That’s the words of New Zealand’s treaty negotiations minister Chris Finlayson.) This recognition gives the river the same rights, as individuals in court proceedings. We recognize companies as persons, so we make contracts with them. Now we recognize a river as a person, so we don’t have to fight about who owns it. With sweeping implications for our modern system of laws, that give corporations more rights than people and nature, having very limited rights.

Our human existence depends on the health and well being of our living earth. And the existence of corporations depends on the wealth and well-being of human society. In our “hunter gatherer past” living in balance with nature was easier, and our dependence was self evident. Now we have reached and exceeded the limits of the earths capacity. Should the fact of our dependence, once again be self evident. The recognition of the river in New Zealand and a few others at this stage, represent a neat compromise in removing the fraught questions of ownership, from the picture. Instead focusing on the legal personality of the river and how best to manage it. I’m sure many other groups will be looking at this decision very closely.

Objections to legal personality.

If other legal personality cases were successful, could it result in nature competing with humans for access to resources, water, grazing, air and forestry. Shifting our relationship and undermining some human intentions to look after nature. What are the rivers liabilities to a person who’s land has been flooded? Could health and safety prosecute the river if I fell in and got sick, or it may be said the river wasn’t employing anyone to be there in the first instance? After all the river has a legal personality now, not just a natural one. Significant as the New Zealand action is, it represents a first step on the ladder. But lets hope it represents the first step of rethinking and restructuring our current systems of law regarding nature.

The anomalies created by giving a river the rights and liabilities of a living person could help. Or is this policy of legal personality logically flawed? offering little benefit to nature, risks harming people and is wide open to abuse by lawyers and vested green interest groups. Finally does it matter at all who benefits, as long as nature wins in the end. 

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Legal personality of nature, as long as nature wins in the end.


Help wanted apply within

Apply within
Help wanted apply within

Wanted apply within.

You once told me you wanted to find yourself in the world and I told you to first apply within, to discover the world within  you. You once told me you wanted to save the world from all its wars and I told you to first save yourself from the world, and all the wars you put yourself through. (Suzy Kassem)

We’ve all heard the collective maxims on success. Follow your passion, nice guys finish last, it’s not what you know, it’s who you know and a winner never quits, plus others. The words are said that often now, that we accept them as truth. A lot of the information is part of a stale agenda, that’s often not helpful to our individual interests. It’s also becoming increasingly hard to discover, our truths outside of these hackneyed phrases. What is the most useful advise for us? as we become comfortable with the lightness of the feel good mainstream media. Which often blocks us from discovering our true selves as we reach out for the seemingly, simple solution. Apply within, is the best solution, attempting to drill down through into our authenticity.

There is also our lazy filter, that comes between us and some of the nuance knowledge that is available to us. Trying to discover material and resources that benefit our own peculiarities is not easy. It takes work and dedication. Often it’s found in a different place, it could be a dusty corner, or buried in an academic tome. Nuggets of information that we can apply within. Also, we have to trust our long term understanding of who we are and how we have developed over the years. Many of our qualities and beliefs have stayed the same, with no significant change from when we were young. We know our strengths and also our weaknesses. By playing to our strengths, there is a chance our weaknesses will blend together with our strengths and come along for the ride.

 Apply within.

Once we apply within we become more selective in taking guidance from outside sources, that try to tell us what we should do. Being more selective, assists us in finding what we’re truly capable of. We have to accept the flaws, mistakes and weaknesses that have made us unique. Even when we get good results, our inner dialogue will pull us down, if we constantly look for flaws within ourselves. As the role of the subconscious mind is to maintain the image that we have created. We must praise ourselves as we keep moving forward. Not in a bullshit way, but using small victories as stepping stones over our perceived failures.

Turning up the volume on our inner voice, is a good place to start when trying to follow our true self. The voice, that most of the time is drowned out in the constant chatter of noise, both internally and externally. Our mind is usually running at a hundred miles an hour. While we often carry tension in our bodies as well. It becomes obvious that we need to quieten our minds, to benefit  from our intuition. Meditation can work, depending on the consistency that’s developed over a period of time. All of the methods of meditation, apps on our phones, guided meditation, celestial sounds, mantras, music and breathing. Require us to test them out and see which combination is the best for us.

Apply in solitude.

Hiking in solitude is my preferred choice, especially solitude over a longer period of time. Which works for each individual in different ways. For me, it usually takes two to three days before I start to feel a difference in my thoughts.  I’m not an empty vessel waiting for my intuitional thoughts to present themselves, filling me with the joy of discovery. Yet there is a marked difference in how I feel, when immersed in the solitude of nature. Hiking is a form of walking meditation. Particularly when the track is flat and I’m not looking down at my feet to often. If I’m fit, well fed, watered and comfortable inside my boots, there’s a better chance I will forget my bodily needs and allow my thoughts to blend with nature.

Nature presents the big picture to us and we become a part of that for a period of time. My thoughts have certain feelings attached to them, as they come bubbling up. Solitude in nature is the best chance I have of connecting to pure intuition within my thoughts. False intuitions defend themselves with justifications when questioned. True intuitions are silent when questioned and have a soft magnetic pull to them. That’s something I got from a dusty corner somewhere.

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Apply within solitude


Intellectual Food for thoughts.

Food for thoughts.

Food for thoughts
Atmosphere of food for thought

“Intellectual growth should commence at birth and cease at death” Albert Einstein.

We have an intellectual need to stimulate our brain, therefore we need to consume intellectual food for thoughts. Feasting on proven sources of good food, reading, writing, music, art, conversing, asking questions and using selective social media. These activities stimulate the brain, because they are creative in nature. What we take in, will ultimately determine who and what we are. The challenge we all face, is deciding what we will allow, to enter our mind? Since we want to take advantage of our ability to learn and develop in a positive and constructive way. It is imperative, that we keep as much “garbage” out as we possibly can. While trying to customize our intellectual food and discover what best nourishes our mind.

Strategic thinking, becomes a benefit of the intellectual food we feed ourselves, as we lay the foundations that help our highest values become automatic. As individuals, we can attempt to be fully alive, current and vitally engaged with life, making us interesting to be with. While providing stimulating conversation and insightful observations, which help to grow our personal relationships. I can feel this truth when I put effort into creative projects, feeding my long term goals and making me stronger, healthier and happier. Most importantly, not letting my desires, fester in my mind with thoughts of, what if and if only. ” Whoever prefers the material comfort of life over intellectual wealth is like the owner of a palace moving into the servants quarters and leaves the sumptuous rooms empty.” Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach. 

Negative food for thoughts.

Separating the good from the bad can be problematical. There are many interesting movies, documentaries and books but there are also perverse and mentally destructive one’s as well. There are helpful and interesting internet sites and also one’s that feature pornography and other illicit content. Intellectual growth should commence at birth and cease at death, although, it often doesn’t. My desire for low level content is less desirable now, not in a puritanical way, it just feels alien to my long term goals. As I absorb more and more interesting and enlightening things from different sources. Through our school and college years, whether we want to or not, we have to learn. Less so after that, the chart of life often has a steady decline, marked downwards until death.

More food for thoughts.

Continuing to learn, can help us stay young, by increasing cognitive activity and slowing the decline in brain function. It’s a matter of expanding our minds in anticipation of new and exciting opportunities ahead. We can be fully connected, current, engaged and interesting to be around. While having something vital to contribute to life and relationships. If we are constantly looking for what’s wrong with our life, we are guaranteed to see it more often. By regularly seeking out things we find funny, curious or interesting, we start to notice life becoming more amazing and amusing every day. Appreciation of humor, also correlates with other emotional strengths, increasing feelings of well being and optimism. With the right intellectual food, we can build a mental muscle that is more in tune to the humor of our day.

Other food for thoughts.

My father used to read the newspaper from front to back, everyday. Yet he wasn’t a prolific reader of books, but was always knowledgeable when conversing. The newspaper carried articles from politics, the arts, sport, human interest and many more genres. I remember my friend once commenting “your dad don’t half know a lot, why is he so smart”? An old school atlas of mine was a constant companion to him, it was full of notes and newspaper cuttings. All the exotic sounding place names were underlined, “Ulan Bator, Addis Ababa” and many others. I was constantly drilled in naming the capital cities of the world, I didn’t excel in many things at school, but geography was one of the subjects I did excel in.

In 1966, Leslie Thomas wrote a book entitled the “Virgin soldiers” which was made into a movie in 1969. This was his main claim to fame. He also wrote other fine books, one being “Some lovely islands.” In this book, he mentions, that as a child, he enjoyed looking at maps and wondering about the exotic sounding place names. Also how those names might reflect on the people who were living there. Not so strange then, someone else was also feeling the same way.”Times” atlas of the world is my choice now, a legacy I got from my father. I’m still looking at the exotic place names and wondering, intellectual food for thought, refers to the quality of the food we are consuming. If I keep feeding my brain with excellent material, will I become Intellectual?


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Love of a good book is food for thought.

Time spent in the Hourglass

Time spent in the hourglass

Unlike most other methods of measuring time, the hourglass represents the present time between the past and the future. This has made it an enduring symbol of time itself.
The hourglass, sometimes with the addition of metaphorical wings, is often depicted as a symbol that human existence is fleeting, and that the “sands of time” will run out for every life. It was used on pirate flags, to strike fear in the hearts of the pirates victims. In England, hourglasses were sometimes placed in coffins, and they have graced gravestones for centuries.

“Sands of time” also represent my personal journey through the hourglass. The bulb shape at the top, is my childhood and the earlier years of my life. The narrow middle, is my working life, raising kids, buying a house, all the striving parts. The bulb at the bottom, is where I am at the moment, after completing most of the journey. The two bulbs have many things in common, there expanded for a reason. They represent the parts of life where freedom without fear mostly exist. The younger “childlike self” and at the bottom of the hourglass an older more “eccentric” self .  Around the narrow middle, is the most problematic part, where most of the problems reside.

Top of the hourglass.

Bumps, bruises and broken bones were an integral part of childhood. Out of the house first thing in the morning, with the only rule “be home before the street lights come on.” Experimentation, exploration and innovation, the freedom to discover and freedom to make mistakes, without fear of failure. A self sufficient world, where the only boundaries were the street lights. Physical boundaries are generally more restricted now, but technology allows freedom, if it’s used in the right way. The fear of failure is often taken away as modern parents in general, are far more conscientious than previous generations. Fathers are far more hands on, than fathers once were. Mothers, even though they spend more time working, tend to nurture children more.

Parents are more concerned about their children, because the sense of community is not as strong as it once was. They make conscious decisions, to protect their children because of concerns that the public realm has become more hostile. “When I look back at the freedom of childhood, which in a way is infinite, and all the joy and happiness, now lost. I sometimes think that childhood is where the real meaning of life is located, and that we as adults are it’s servants-that that’s our purpose” (Karl Ove Knausgaard). Parents have always wanted their children to succeed in life, with different value judgements, but trying to arrive at the same objective. “Values” are learned in a different way now, one example is, that children earn money for doing chores that once had to be done for free.

Middle of the hourglass.

Go to work, send your kids to school, follow fashion, walk on the pavement, watch TV, save for old age, obey the law. Repeat after me. Modern electronic gadgets, the internet, and other 21st-century trends, have conditioned people not to think for themselves. Everything is at the push of a button, meaning that less brainpower is needed to accomplish tasks. Electronic media is all pervasive and does most of the thinking.  The childhood mistakes that used to be made are sins now, because everyone is terrified of failing.

Watching directors cuts of friends on face book and imagining it’s real, but in reality, life is unedited. Money status and power is an important tool of social media. Attempting to make people discontented and unhappy, with the only cure being, consumption.

As children we learned to overcome the fear of mistakes, as it was essential to learning. We tried to walk, fell over a hundred times, hurt ourselves, but at no point did we ever say, walking is not for me and give up. In the middle part of life, we seem to reach a point where we’re afraid to fail. “I’m such a loser” we tell ourselves, as mistakes make us feel unworthy, so avoiding failure at all costs. If younger people are doing OK and older people say there isn’t anything to be afraid of, what’s going on in the middle?

Peoples fears of aging reach a fever pitch in midlife, which is evident by the most popular punchline “midlife crises.” The problem is compounded by a comparison driven society, where we postpone happiness till the future. While not being aware, that what we are waiting for, may be something we ultimately, don’t want.

Bottom of the hourglass.

Nobody cares too much down at the bottom of the hourglass, we’re just an afterthought. “First they ignore you then they laugh at you then you win” Gandhi. Those physical boundaries are back again, only this time, in our bodies, but we can stay out after the “street lights come on though. ” Feelings of Superiority and Inferiority where I was always comparing myself to others, is gone now. I’m getting used to a feeling of interiority where I don’t need to compare myself with anyone else, with no fear of failure and a renewed sense of self sufficiency. I’m 65 now, the problem with that chronological number is, it doesn’t fit my internal age, I still feel young on the inside, with thoughts that hopefully don’t let me down.

I should mention death, after all that’s the reality of being down the bottom of the hourglass. I thought I may be terrified but it turns out I’m not. There’s probably a good reason for that, obviously, not something unique to me. Childlike now eccentric, freedom to explore, now freedom to contemplate. I have been adventurous and willing to take risks and had a measure of freedom in my working life. I think it helps me be adaptable, and an independent thinker. Which in turn, makes me aware of all the possibilities available to me. When I get really bored, I like to drive to the local supermarket, find a great parking spot, then sit in my car and count how many people ask me if I’m going to leave soon. Freedom.

Time spent in the hourglass


Sobremesa “over the table”

“Over the table” Sobremesa

Sobremesa “over the table”

Sobremesa is deeply rooted in Spanish-Latin American culture. The word literally means “over the table” it has no precise English translation, probably because there is no cultural equivalent. It’s leisurely time after having finished eating, but before getting up from the table. Time spent in conversation, digesting, relaxing and enjoying. Not rushing, or reserved for weekends, even weekday and business meals, have sobremesa time. After a meal in Spain, you won’t get a check until you ask for it. It would be considered rude to rush your meal, or in any way discourage, “over the table” conversation.

Sharing a meal with good friends is profoundly satisfying. Eating together is one of the oldest and most fundamental unifying human experiences. It can simultaneously connect our physical, emotional and relational needs. Often not planned, it just happens and that’s worth hanging on to, as an authentic custom. If the table is still full of wine, beer and good coffee, what better way to share our reminiscing and anecdotes. What a great idea to carry forward to our homes as well. An opportunity to talk about what’s going on in our lives, share opinions and receive that much needed human contact. Eating slowly and happily, with good conversation afterwards, improves our digestion. “A family that eats together stays together”

Sobremesa “on the trail”.

“Over the table” moments are harder to find on the trail, only because we seldom, find the “table.” The fellowship of hiking companions, easily makes up for the less formal setting. Inhaling air containing essential wood oils given off by plants. The sound of birds, cool air, green leaves, trees, wild plants and grasses coupled with a tiredness that only hard physical effort can bring. Creates a cocktail of understanding, that nature is working magic and in this place right now nothing else matters. There is a distinct feeling, that this is how life should be, an inheritance of our “hunter gather” past. Fire becomes a focal point, but often the “jet boils” come out to cook the food quickly, nothing fancy, food gobbled down, well earned after the days hike.


If nature allows all the elements to manifest, we become part of a profoundly moving experience. Sitting together in the shadows of the fire, with a belly full of good food. Tired but with just enough energy to drink coffee and enjoy “sobremesa”. Silence is everywhere the only sounds are the breeze moving through the leaves and the crackle of embers in the fire. The aroma of the coffee, blended with the subtle smells of nature, makes the conversation easy and relaxed, together, but also alone with our thoughts in the shadows. “Over the table” conversation seems to require an alertness, a connection of eyes with those around us. Silence turns to awkwardness, as we feel compelled to fill in the “gaps”

The “gaps” in the shadows are periods of contemplation, the grounding effect of nature, almost compels us to look deeper into ourselves. Minutes go by without a sound ” Man you know what, I’ve been thinking, being here in this place, having this conversation. Explain to me why I feel so alive?

Sobremesa “seconds” 

Arriving in a seaside town in England, on a bank holiday weekend, the weather was perfect. That should make it memorable anyway, it was memorable, but for slightly different reasons. An Indian restaurant, it must be popular, there were lots of people looking at the menu on the window. That’s a good sign, some of them are Indian, “lets eat.” “Excuse me this is a queue” It suddenly hit me, that the same thing was happening at all the restaurants. We took our place in the queue, moving slowly along the glass frontage, the diners inside had that smug almost sneering look, they had something that we wanted. Around twenty minutes and we were in the door, “table for two” that’s us, there were three sets of diners in front, but two was the perfect combination this time.

It should have dawned on me, a queue outside and it took us twenty minutes to get in here and it’s still packed. The waiters were a cross between shepherds and prison guards. We were herded to our table with the menu, then the waiter stood guard, waiting for a decision. Not one either, three, entrée, main and desert, I thought about drinks but the thought was as far as I got. Good service, less than five minutes and the entrée, was there. Another ten minutes and the main meal was over. It was time to take a stand on the desert, but the waiter had obviously seen this before. He used a selling ploy of implied consent, before we had finished eating, the bill was placed on the table. Between him and the other potential diners waiting, what chance did we have of a sobremesa moment.

Final thoughts.

Sobremesa has traveled beyond Spanish-Latin American culture, it’s entrenched in most cultures, something we demand. The lowliest chef now, is an aspiring rock star, an artist of food. This makes us want to linger, as we compare the presentation and flavors, a flow through into another conversation. I have had many fine Indian meals in England since that time, with many “over the table” conversations. Do I know what good Indian food tastes like? (I have two Indian daughter in laws). Sobremesa “on the trail” has it all, inhaling the air, aromas of nature and silence, a relaxed state that’s hard to find anywhere else. A special place for real conversation, good food too, even if I do say so myself. Invite everyone for a nice meal…..and the first one to leave pays.

sobremesa over the table
Sobremesa Hiking style

Waiting for the green lights to happen

Waiting for a green light.

Waiting for green lights
Don’t just wait for the green lights

I just have to wait long enough, the timing always sucks, it’s never quite how it should be. The green lights will never all be green. While the universe doesn’t conspire against us, it doesn’t go out of it’s way to line up the green lights either. While waiting to quit our job, waiting to travel, waiting for love, waiting for permission, waiting for Godot maybe, who never arrives. Conditions are never perfect,”someday” is a terminal disease that will take our dreams to the grave with us. You’d think we’re never going to die, the way we cower, second guess and fret over every little action. Imagining everything is of paramount importance because we might upset some delicate balance that doesn’t exist anyway.

We’re not as fragile or as weak as we’ve fooled ourselves into thinking. The control of modern society keeps us safe and secure, but often with negative benefits. Keeping us in the soft, protected center and away from the sharp edges, but a lot of the uplifting things in life are located on those edges. The problem is, we need to experience the edges beyond our imposed comfort zone. Fear doesn’t need to stop us, we can go willingly, step by step. If we need to pull back we can, whatever level of discomfort we reach, we can reach it deliberately. Meet it head on, on our own terms, then we can own it, making our world much bigger in all directions.

Create green lights.

We wait in anticipation for the green light, that gives us permission to go. If the light doesn’t turn green for us, does that mean we can’t move, we’re stuck. When we arrive at a big intersection in life and the traffic lights aren’t working, what then? We can’t just sit there waiting for a green light to happen, as difficult as it is,we have to get across the intersection. There is no turning back either as the traffic on all sides is building up. We have to create our own green light, with cooperation and anticipation,we carefully move through the busy intersection. For a short while we’re forced to embrace the edges, we’re not quite as fragile as we thought.

“An optimist is a person who sees a green light everywhere, while a pessimist sees only the red stop light…..the truly wise person is colorblind”. Albert Schweitzer. To experience more of the uplifting things in life we sometimes have to stop on the green light and go on the red light. Ignoring the well defined streets of the culture we happen to be born and live in. Life isn’t designed to be lived through a filter of fake joy, fake excitement, or a hollow sense of victory. Victory over the everyday, keeps us contented. Although the real joy and excitement of our own expansion, is often closer to the edges.

Red or green lights.

Being colorblind could be part of an illusion that we can opt out of the human condition. Once we get it all figured out, everything will be fantastic. Everyday we can have moments of grace and moments of struggle. Moments of illumination and moments of darkness, moments of love and moments of isolation. We’re all in this together, it’s figuring out a way to piece together our lives and devote more time to the bigger questions. There isn’t a destination we are ever going to arrive at, where it’s awesome all the time. Living more on the edges is only a notion, we don’t have to be in that place all the time. It’s really about choosing, rather than reacting, to what and who matters in our life. While practicing cultivating these things, then we can develop our decisions and actions that ultimately, make us feel most alive.



Spotlight effect

Spotlight effect.

Spotlight effect
Mind the glare of the spotlight

That dog next door is howling again and I’m sitting in my yard enjoying the winter sun listening to him. Now I understand how the dog feels, pacing up and down behind the fence. I’m waiting to go into hospital to get a hernia repaired, but that’s another story, long boring and frustrating. Another month to go and I’m there, unless I get bumped off the list by a more deserving patient. Can there be one? I can’t hike or do much at the moment. I have been thinking about something that deserves  a bit more attention, more than the dog and I are getting at the moment anyway. Neither of us are in the spotlight at the moment.

The world will little note nor long remember what we say here” Abraham Lincoln. This plays into what psychologists call the “spotlight effect” everybody must be caring about what I’m doing. But the fact is nobody gives a crap about what I do. The world doesn’t revolve around me. The anonymity of my tininess is extremely comforting when I feel as if everything I do, matters. We all have an innate self-awareness of our faults, mistakes and slip-ups.

In truth, other people don’t notice them nearly as much as we assume. Because there’re too busy noticing and greatly exaggerating their own flaws. What we believe to be true, regarding our public appearance is often not the case. Most of the time, people are not that interested in our appearance or performance. Each of us are the center of  our own universe because we are so focused on our own behavior. It’s difficult to arrive at an accurate assessment of how much or how little our behavior is noticed by others.

Our own spotlight.

My dads brother came to Australia to live in Brisbane in the early fifties. He had been in Australia for thirteen years, when a family crisis caused him to return to the local town he was born and grew up in, until he left for Australia. According to my father, he was expecting to be welcomed back with open arms. The center of attention, telling tales of his years away and how much he had achieved. They were walking past the home of a former good friend, who happened to be working in his front garden. My uncle put his arms around this mans shoulders and gave him a hug.

My father told me the man was confused, he didn’t understand what the hug was all about. Then it became obvious, as he said “I thought I hadn’t seen you for a while, have you been working out of town” Why exactly are we so caught up in our own spotlight?  We are anchored in a world of our own experiences, so we have trouble realizing, that people are absorbed in their own lives and so, are too busy to pay attention to ours.

Glare of the spotlight.

When you feel your in the full glare of the “spotlight” try not to listen to your internal cues of anxiety, sweaty palms, elevated heart rate and a feeling of doom and dread. Imaging how noticeable you are to others and they’ll therefore judge you even more harshly. It’s normal to have moments of self doubt, but thanks to the “spotlight effect”, our blunders often feel more severe than they are in reality. Although it might seem counter-intuitive, it helps to be more outspoken, rather than timid. It’s really a stage performance, doubling everything from facial expressions to gestures and reactions.

The effect is one of confidence and owning your actions, rather than self-consciously communicating, with small meek gestures and actions. I’ve been aware of this for a while now and have made the effort to live a bit louder, a bit freer and say. “Who cares.”

Spotlight effect
Am I that important really