Decide how badly you want it, everything has a price, decide if your willing to pay the price.
Aline your actions with your goals. People say they want to lose weight, but their unwilling to change the foods they eat. Some people want to gain weight, but they don’t want to lift weights or make sure they are eating enough. Also they want to run a marathon, but they don’t want to train. Most people want glory without the hard work. Decide how badly you want it, figure out what the cost will be to achieve it and then if you still want it, commit to it. But if you don’t want it, that’s fine “BUT” stop pretending that you do. If you want it bad enough, work like hell to make it happen. Everything has a price, decide if you want to pay that price. Then if your willing to pay the price, be at peace with your decision.
Stop waiting for someone to give you what you want.
All courses of action are risky, so prudence is not in avoiding danger but calculating risk and acting decisively. Make mistakes of ambition not mistakes of laziness. Develop the strength to do bold things, not the strength to suffer. If your worried about death and your own demise, don’t, it’s coming whether you like it or not. You will either arrive at the end of your life, satisfied with the things you have achieved. Or you will arrive broken and beaten, but whichever way you choose, have no doubt that you will arrive.
Never be embarrassed to admit mistakes
Just because you’re embarrassed to admit that you’re still living with the consequences of bad decisions. Some of them made 5, 10, or 20 years ago, this shouldn’t stop you from making decisions now. If you let pride stop you, you will hate life 5,10, or 20 years from now for the same reasons. This transformation is painful, but your not falling apart, you’re falling into something different, with a new capacity for growth as a person.
Big and scary
The mind makes all future tasks big and scary, so we procrastinate, even the little things, when we imagine doing them in the future, get distorted and take on frightening proportions. Objects in the mirror of the future appear larger than they really are. Because the imagination, when it ventures into the future, always imagines the worst case scenario. No wonder we procrastinate, thinking and imagining the worst case scenarios, scare us into putting everything off.
Pay the price
Perfectionism can be a trigger for procrastination, you can delay doing a task simply because you find that the conditions are not perfect. Ultimately, in order to achieve any goal, you will have to believe that you have the strength and self discipline to do whatever you set your mind to. You can easily become a self help junkie, you can have a whole library of books that give you intellectual knowledge. But unless you take decisive action on that knowledge, it remains a hobby of reading and collecting books. The only true security in life comes from knowing that every single day you are improving yourself in some way. I don’t worry about maintaining my quality of life, because everyday I work on improving it. Strive to learn and add value.