“All courses of action are risky, so prudence is not in avoiding danger (it’s impossible), but calculating risk and acting decisively. Make mistakes of ambition and not mistakes of sloth. Develop the strength to do bold things, not the strength to suffer.” Niccolo Machiavelli.
In life it’s only natural to experience setbacks and problems. Self discipline is the tool we require to solve life’s problems. Without self discipline, we can solve nothing. With only some self discipline, we can solve problems. With total self discipline, we can solve practically all problems. Self discipline is the means by which we concentrate our mind on what we want from life. At the same time keeping our mind from attracting what we don’t want through fear and worry.
Winston Churchill once said, “Success consists of going from failure to failure without the loss of enthusiasm” The trick to doing bold things is changing the way we respond to failure, it’s disassociating ourselves from it. Our failure in any given area doesn’t make us a failure. It’s reframing our thoughts in a different way. I am not a failure, but I failed at doing this, boldness comes as we turn failure into strength with self discipline.
Take a bold step.
Some people get angry when they fail, others, unwilling to except responsibility, look for scapegoats. Still others ignore their negative results and continue with negative actions. “There’s really only one solution to gridlock on the failure freeway and that’s to wake up and find the exit. John C Maxwell. In a world of instant gratification it gets harder to play the long game, as we look for quick fixes to solve our problems. The problem is we get comfortable with what we were doing, and the new habit we need to be better, is less comfortable. We’re clinging to the comfortable, it’s so easy to be enticed by a stable salary, a routine and a comfortable life, but at what expense? You can only make progress if you take a bold step. Overcoming the fear of failing is the first step to success.
“Try and fail, but don’t fail to try” John Quincy Adams.
Take action if you make mistakes realize your fear of failure isn’t based on logic but on experience. That experience eventually brings competence and as a result you make fewer mistakes. You have to act your way into feeling positive, not wait for positive emotions to carry you forward. “Fake it till you make it” I’m a firm believer that this can work, everyone does it to a certain extent and there is nothing wrong with that. The mind can be tricked, you can balance your life on a small hack. In the meantime, you will learn what you need to and turn that pretend confidence into the real deal. All it takes is a little nerve.
Doing bold things.
Doing bold things, comes in more when you have to do a particular task and there’s nowhere to hide your “fake it till you make it.” I can remember one particular boss I had in the construction industry, when I was a lot younger than I am now. You started in the morning and had until lunch time to prove your ability. “Here’s the blue print build that” lunch time came around, it was a very simple process. “Good on you mate, go grab your lunch” or “pick up your tools and fuck off”. Could he do that today I’m not sure? Did it help me to do bold things in the future? when you need money there is no choice, it’s doing bold things with necessity in mind.
Without the concept of fear there would be no need for boldness or courage. With boldness we choose to be bigger than our current self and step towards the future. We bring the new into the present, knowing that fear will show up, but we must commit to action anyway. Courage allows us to handle the waves of fear as they arrive, because we have made a commitment to do bold things.